Suggestions for crowdfunding charitable causes (ie, begging for money)
Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1308 posts
Hey guys,
My dog got really savagely mauled on Saturday afternoon and has been through hell over the past few days with treatment. She's still in the ICU and costs are mounting extremely rapidly. To date, we've shelled out over $6000 and there's a good chance it's going to pass $10k as it's costing over $1000/day while she's in the ICU.
Currently my mother has drawn back from her mortgage to help cover the fees, but it's completely unfair for her to be shouldering the cost like this. As such, I've been thinking about setting up a crowdfunding page and trying to get some contributions to help defray some of the costs.
I know there are dozens of sites out there, but the only ones I really know anything about are Kickstarter and Indiegogo. AFAIK, neither of these sites support charitable cause pages (as in, funding must be for the production of "things"). If anyone has any ideas where I should look to set up the page, I'd love to hear it.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12785 posts
Reddit.
Post the story with graphic pics on a default subreddit somewhere, someone will no doubt recommend a good one and help you come up with a post strategy (this is actually important). QGL peeps may be able to help with upvotes. reddit loves the shit out of cats and dogs.
Better cats than dogs, but its a good place to beg for help.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1309 posts
Good idea, thanks. We've got literally hundreds of pics of her and the doctors have given us the photos they took of her wounds and the report that accompanied it. She's lucky to be alive as she got savaged from haunch to shoulder, including three abdominal tears (including tearing the ligaments holding her intestines in place), multiple chest punctures and possible nerve damage to her left forepaw.
She's a really sweet little thing and it's killing us seeing her like this and being unable to do anything directly to help :(
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dranged
Melbourne, Victoria
2047 posts
Look I don't want to come across as a completely insensitive bastard all the time, but isn't this what insurance is for?
Also good luck on your crowdsourcing. Reddit do love their pets!
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12786 posts
No probs, make sure you get some help putting the campaign together, the hive mind is a fickle beast. You want to be able to verify the story with the mods of the subreddit too, should be easy enough to scan in some vet bills for the dog? I'd suggest rather than start a donation page yourself somewhere, ask for a prominent member of the sub to step up and manage the process at arms length, I think there are sites that do this? You want to make sure you're being open and transparent about everything. Reddit's a target for sob story scams so you want to appear as reputable as possible. Look I don't want to come across as a completely insensitive bastard all the time, but isn't this what insurance is for It is and he obviously doesn't have it, so he's asking for voluntary help. There are three responses to this: - Fuck you, should have insured your dog. - Can't help sorry. - Have a couple of $ Which one is yours? I can throw in a couple of bucks (dont get excited, literally a couple of bucks) and my upvote once you get started Ges.
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Raven
Melbourne, Victoria
7375 posts
What actually happened? Another dog off-leash that should have been muzzled?
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12787 posts
What actually happened? Another dog off-leash that should have been muzzled? This will come up. Is someone to blame who should be getting a bill, or was it a feral?
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dranged
Melbourne, Victoria
2048 posts
thermite
Brisbane, Queensland
10242 posts
I didn't even know a dog could be insured.
This is a very sad situation.
The ICU sounds way too expensive, are they rorting people a bit by playing on their emotions with this kind of thing? There is no payment plan to cover these costs over a longer term? Can you get a loan for this or pay with credit?
It also seems like someone else is responsible for the injuries to your dog, and they should be held to that.
I would also suggest that unless you have everything fully insured including your income or you have financial responsibilities like debts/mortgage/rent, you should have like 10 grand per person accessible within days when shit happens.
I googled charitable crowdfunding and found http://www.ipledg.com/ but this is too depressing for me to think about anymore.
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Scooter
Brisbane, Queensland
6042 posts
I know this would be a devistating decision to make... but might the dog be/have been better off put down? Seems like very extensive injuries, will it be able to make a full recovery?
Sympathies are with you, and I hope you nail whomever is responsible for the injuries.
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Dodgymon
Brisbane, Queensland
2164 posts
I would consider moving your pet to a different (cheaper) vet.
I had an issue with my dog really late at night so the only place open was the 24 hr emergency vet at springwood. All they really did was put him on a drip and looked at his poo and that was nearly $2000 just to keep him overnight. For my local vet to do it would have been under $300.
Also over the years I have found pricing to range quite considerably from vet to vet for the same proceedure so with vets to pays to shop around.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1310 posts
Thanks guys, will post more details later, have had to head onsite with a client.
In short though, yes, she has a good chance of making a full recovery (barring post-op complications). Quickly though, at this stage, the only possible long-term injury is whether she'll regain full use of her front left fore-paw.
Dodgymon, she's currently at the Emergency Vet at Springwood as she's too sick to move at this stage. We should be able to get her out of there in the next couple of days. They've been phenomenally good for her. In the ICU, they have 24-hour, round the clock care with an almost 1:1 ratio of staff to animals. As soon as we can though, we're going to get her home and look after her there. Our normal vet is extremely good and is happy to help out, we just need to get her stable and on the mend first.
dRanged, we do have pet insurance, but the indications I've had from them so far is that they're not going to cover the injury.
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Dodgymon
Brisbane, Queensland
2165 posts
Ah well good luck anyways.
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funky
Brisbane, Queensland
1724 posts
yeah your local vet won't be available late at night though dodgymon (or overnight), so you're pretty much left with the handful of 24 hr centres around (AES at springwood, BVSC at albany creek, WAEC at UQ in St Lucia are the only 24 hr places that i know of). you're paying to have vets and vet nurses supervise the care of the animals for 24 hrs a day, these places are essentially hospitals rather than GP surgeries, to use an analogy, plus the cost of whatever the treatment itself is.
it's a sad state of affairs Gesthemene, but if you have a culprit i'd definitely be looking into passing on some of the costs to them or something like that.
what were the circumstances surrounding the mauling? dog park? walking in the street? animal came into your yard?
have you investigated getting credit? some places offer loans for such things (i think GE do - no idea about the terms/rates or anything though, probably exorbitant i imagine)
seems like Hoggy's ideas are the way to go regarding reddit/crowdfunding.
poor animal. it sucks when shit like this happens!
edit - well, Gesthemene seems to have covered my post before i pressed reply!
last edited by funky at 14:10:10 18/Sep/12
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Raven
Melbourne, Victoria
7376 posts
WTF, why would they not cover it? Which dodgy provider are you with?
This thread has reminded me that I want to get pet insurance sorted out for Casper, who's now about 17 weeks old - more in case he ends up getting sick and it costs thousands. I earn enough to be able to affort $10/fortnight (ie, $260/year) rather than the risk.
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FaceMan
Brisbane, Queensland
9333 posts
Sausage Sizzle for your friends/Family ?
Pet Bills are tough, You would like to think you would pay anything but at some point it becomes all too much.
Why didnt Insurance cover it ?
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Ha
Brisbane, Queensland
303 posts
at any stage (like when your mother drew on her mortgage) did you say to yourself 'it's only a dog and i probably shouldn't put myself and those close to me in debt i can't afford to prolong its life when a humane alternative is legal and morally sound'?
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1311 posts
Ha, I hope you never EVER own a dog. In answer to your question, no I didn't ever think, "it's only a dog", because she's not "only a dog", she is a very significant part of our family and to us, that question is akin to saying, "It's only your child, you can have another one".
As for what happened:
We headed down to the Gold Coast on Friday night for my fiancé's birthday to stay with her family. My mother had very kindly agreed to look after her for the night. She lives on acreage and has a c~2 acre, fenced house yard. She also has a border collie that Lily (my dog) knows and gets along with quite well.
Apparently they were having an awesome time on the Saturday morning, chasing each other around the house etc. My mother had to go out for a few hours to see my older brother, his wife and her granddaughter. At about 5pm, we received a call on my fiancé's mobile from the daughter of my mother's neighbour. Apparently (and I say apparently, because we have no way of proving or disproving either way), Lily managed to escape the house yard, wandered across the paddock and into the neighbour's yard. Now, these neighbours don't have dogs, but their daughter and son-in-law were visiting as they had just returned from the Cape. They had their two dogs with them (I don't know any details about what breed they were etc, but apparently they were larger than Lily and apparently extremely aggressive) who saw Lily, chased her and attacked her.
We told them that we'd meet them at the Animal Emergency Hospital at Springwood and left the Coast immediately. They were already there (as Chambers Flat is a lot closer to Springwood than Currumbin) and Lily had already been admitted. When the doctors came out to see us, we were advised that she had been savaged all along the left side of her body. She had a 40cm circumference wound on the interior of her left haunch (think, her inner thigh), a gaping wound in her abdomen with fat tissue hanging out of the wound, puncture wounds all up her chest and a large wound on her left shoulder. She was also exhibiting a loss of mobility with her left front forepaw, as it keep knuckling in, as if she was trying to walk on her knee (elbow? Whatever you call the next joint up her leg after her foot) rather than her foot.
The doctors were concerned that if any of the puncture wounds in her chest had penetrated fully into the chest cavity, she was at risk of a collapsed lung and/or developing a pneumothorax. They were also concerned about the possibility of internal organ damage in her abdomen and the risk of permanent nerve damage to her forepaw from the bite wounds around her shoulder and armpit or even a possible fractured scapula.
We were told that they were extremely serious injuries, but at this stage, nothing that was immediately life-threatening.
At about 8pm, we were advised that they had x-rayed her shoulder and chest and saw no evidence of a broken scapula or pneumothorax, but that the wounds she had sustained needed to be treated straight away. She was rushed into surgery at about 8:30 and was under anesthesia until about 1:50am. During the surgery, the doctor discovered that the abdominal attacks had shredded the ligaments holding her intestines in place and nicked the intestine itself, but had not actually penetrated all the way through. The best news is that there were no other organs damaged at all.
She had 2 drains inserted into her abdomen and thigh in order to drain the fluid that would build up after the surgery to repair the damage. After she came out of surgery, she was placed into the ICU and watched around the clock, whilst being fed Fentanyl and Methodone intravenously.
We've been visiting her every day and calling for updates every 4-5 hours. She's slowly recovering, and as of today has had the two drains removed. She's still on an IV line to provide her with saline, potassium, painkillers, anti-emetics (to counter the nausea induced by the painkillers), GI motivators (to counter the peristalsis inhibition from the Fentanyl), antibiotics and a whole bunch of other stuff that I don't understand.
The vets are still concerned about the protein levels in her blood as well as the fact that it's taking longer to clot than it should. Every day she seems to be getting that little better and has started using her left fore-paw again, although she still stumbles on it every now and then. This is a good sign as it indicates that the damage may simply be caused by the trauma to the shoulder, or at worst the nerves being pinched by the swelling from the wounds. The biggest issue at the moment is that she hasn't eaten anything since Saturday morning. If she doesn't eat, she can't leave as they'll need to keep the antibiotics and painkillers being fed intravenously. The minute she starts to eat again, we can bring her home and keep nursing her here.
The doctors and nurses at AES have been phenomenal and the care they've provided has been top-rate. The only problem is how expensive it is. At the moment, they've been able to reduce her to Level 1 monitoring within the ICU, which is apparently the lowest you can get before being admitted back into the general ward, but even that is still costing $600 per day. With the medication and consumables they're going through with her, it's still adding up to almost $1000 per day.
We've already paid $6000 for the surgery and ICU costs (which covered from Saturday night to Monday morning). We're currently accruing further fees that will need to be paid immediately upon discharge. So, this is why we're looking for help. I'll be jumping on Reddit now to see what I can figure out, but having never even been to it before, it may take me a while to figure out where to post etc. If anyone has any suggestions, I'd really appreciate it.
Oh yeah, the doctors have a written report of the injuries and took photos when she was admitted. I've also taken some photos tonight to document the trauma we're seeing after the surgery.
As for the insurance, apparently they cancelled it on me back in July. It's funny, because I didn't receive a notification of it, simply the one from late June advising me that my policy had been renewed for another year. Apparently they'd cancelled it because the expiry date on my credit card is from 2011. This is despite the fact that I spoke to them around April after someone ran into my car and I had to give them my new credit card details over the phone. So, since I last posted, I've spoken to them and they've rejected my claim, but have referred me to the Out of Coverage Claims team. My understanding is that this is the team you get sent to when you're not strictly covered, but there are compassionate reasons for them to act like a good corporate citizen rather than a cold, heartless pack of assholes.
If anyone else has questions or wants clarification on anything, just let me know.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1312 posts
Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13700 posts
I'm really sorry about your situation, it's terrible.
My friend's German short-haired pointer had a thing for kangaroos (we live semi-rural). He'd always chase them, and if they'd fight back (often) he would just run into a dam and they wouldn't usually follow him in.
One day my mate was walking him off a lead through some paddocks and the same happened. Dog ran into the dam but the kangaroo was too quick and clawed him. Basically opened him right up. He died instantly. My mate had to carry the dead dog about 1km home, and he was a bloody mess as you can imagine, and explain to his younger brother (the owner) what had happened. Devastating incident.
I do want to convey what I would do in your situation though. Having had many pets of many different kinds (cats, birds and dogs) and loving them all, honestly in your situation I would put down Lily.
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Superform
Netherlands
7524 posts
my missus is a vet and she always tells people to insure their pets..
i dont understand that people who buy a dog and go to the trouble of vaccinating it etc dont insure it at the same time
gl
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1313 posts
Pinky, I'm really trying to get my head around this. Why would you put the animal down when they're going to make a full recovery?
Superform, I absolutely agree. I was stunned when they told me that they'd cancelled the policy.
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DeadlyDav0
Brisbane, Queensland
2956 posts
Fuck bro, sorry to hear about that. We have 2 little dogs and id hate for them to get fucked up.
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funky
Brisbane, Queensland
1725 posts
yeah i'd be looking into that Gesthemene - can you prove that you gave them your new credit card details etc etc? cos surely you'd have a case there that you did everything possible to keep your policy current?
also, my ex gf was a vet, and plenty of people are forced to put down animals when they simply can't afford the treatment. sad, but a very real fact.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1314 posts
Funky, I can, because I'd had to update them previously when I lodged the insurance claim for the woman running into my car. At this stage, I'm playing nicely with them because it's still under review. However, if they come back and reject it from the Out of Coverage claims team, I'm lodging a complaint with the BFSO and will do everything I can to ensure that it costs them many times what it would have to simply pay the claim as they should have in the first case. I understand about being forced to put them down, I think it's absolutely heartbreaking :( Anyway, I'm starting to get a couple of upvotes on Reddit, not sure how much of that is due to you guys pushing it (if so, thanks very much!). At this stage, it looks like I'm going to go with gofundme.com to host it, I'm just waiting to see if there are any other suggestions or advice to the contrary.
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Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13704 posts
Pinky, I'm really trying to get my head around this. Why would you put the animal down when they're going to make a full recovery? I guess I must be poorer than you *shrug* Unfortunately for me it would be a financial consideration. I'm interested to see how your crowd-funding effort goes though. Good luck, it's a massive financial outlay. On crowd-funding for charitable reasons did anyone follow the Linux developer who had cancer in the US? Due to their messed up hospital system they had to come up with some stupid about of cash for treatment.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12792 posts
This is all my personal POV, and not a commentary on what you guys are doing Ges. Hopefully earlier in the piece I made it clear I'm supportive of you guys? We're past the initial question and onto the inevitable sidetrack now ;)
We have a dog and cat that the family loves dearly. We don't insure them. My wife and I have an understanding that in the event that treatment for either got over $1500-2000 (or whatever we felt was our affordable limit in future) we would opt for euthanasia.
We get that its a sad time for the kiddies especially, but part of having pets and kids is that the kids are likely to deal with the grief of their death while they are young. It happened to us and was an important part of my life growing up.
I get why people make comparisons between dogs and kids and treat them like they are the same. But would I be wrong in suggesting that you guys don't have kids Ges? Because as a parent and a dog owner (for us at least) its just not the same at all. We love them both, but the dog and cat are pets who (maybe sadly!) have a price tag and the others are flesh and blood that we would each unflinchingly die for.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1315 posts
Hoggie, you're right, we don't have kids at this stage, so I don't have any real basis to compare it to, but the statement I hear a lot from parents is that they'd be willing to kill or die to protect their children. On that basis, I feel the same about this dog. If I had to put myself into a situation where I had to kill someone or risk getting killed myself to protect them, I wouldn't even need to think about it, I'd be going straight for the throat.
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skythra
Brisbane, Queensland
6105 posts
Friend spent 1000 on a rat. It recovered luckily, 3 years ago she had a bird and it got sick, spent 1700 on it, it died anyway.
Killing someone over a dog is a bit extreme, maybe have a reality check about what your stance is, and what you'd think if other people all had that stance and where society would be.
Where people would kill someone else over their pets, maybe their cherished posessions, if we all felt that way, society wouldn't be better.
Seriously, that reality check, do it.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12793 posts
I don't really get the notion of significantly endangering your life for a pet. I'm not going near murder over a pet, that seems like hyperbole, and I'm not allowed to react to that anymore.
It just doesn't seem sensible to me. I couldn't leave my kids fatherless, my wife a widow, and force my parents to endure the grief of burying their child for the sake of our dog, but holy shit I would bend time and space for any of my boys!
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1316 posts
Hogfather and Skythra, you may be right. I'm the first to admit that I don't have children yet, so I don't know whether I'd feel the same way. Also, since I've never been in a situation that warrants such action either, I'm only speaking from an objective viewpoint of how I *think* I'd respond. Let's just hope that I never need to make that distinction.
I've been thinking about it a little more since your posts (What's that?! Someone actually thinks before replying? What happened to you, Internet, you used to be cool :() and I started to consider the financial aspects of it. Obviously, if I had a child that was in a critical, life-threatening situation, I'd give up everything for them - sell my house, sell my car, take out the biggest loan I could to cover their costs etc. But it doesn't make sense to do that for a pet, no matter how much you love them. Obviously, I'd spend as much as I could to save her life, but doing so beyond the point where it puts my family in jeopardy is irresponsible :( I'm just extremely grateful that we haven't had to make such a horrible decision.
Also, in exceptionally good news, she's been moved out of the ICU and into the general hospital ward. They're going to try giving her oral painkillers as opposed to intravenous. If she can keep them down, we may be able to bring her home tonight :)
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thermite
Brisbane, Queensland
10249 posts
Good news about your dog, now I don't feel so bad about having to do this....
I'm the first to admit that I don't have children yet
Oh... that's big of you!
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d^
Melbourne, Victoria
1200 posts
x-post from /r/pics to the main part if you can.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1317 posts
Good news about your dog, now I don't feel so bad about having to do this....
I'm the first to admit that I don't have children yet
Oh... that's big of you! Err... Precisely why did you feel you had to take something I'd said completely out of context? Not even just out of context, but ignoring the second half of that sentence? Bad troll is bad :(
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1318 posts
d^ I would, but I have NFI how to do that. This is the first time I've ever even browsed Reddit
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
64 posts
Upvoted you on reddit ..
I hope your little buddy makes a full recovery and best of luck with your fundraising :) Ignore the comments about euthenasia, I understand wanting to do whatever it takes to organise the funds for treatment ..
I'm actually trying to find the best fundraising strategy for my daughter right now, and was looking into indiegogo and gofundme myself. I was under the impressing that you could use indiegogo for charitible causes, you just had to provide perks/rewards for specific levels of donations. May be wrong though.
My issue is that my 3yo baby girl is autistic, and we want to get on top of therapy ASAP so that she can hopefully live a relatively normal life. She's completely non-verbal, has constant meltdowns and has no concept of danger/burning/cars/lots of other things that most people take for granted. It's a daily struggle to do basic things.
Our paed has recommended at least 25 hours a week of intensive one on one therapy. This would include Speech therapy, occupational therapy, a sensory profile & diet and ABA (Applied behavior analysis) which requires a small team of therapists and a coordinator. For all of this I'm looking at about 60k a YEAR.
Government funding is 12k to last till she's 7, at a max spend of 6k a year.
On top of this, we're REALLY hoping to get approved for an autism assistance dog hopefully via smartpups.org.au . If we do, we'd need to help raise 23k to raise and train it.
Meanwhile, my partner and I combined make only about 44k a year. I work beyond full time for a small startup, as well as juggling my own hosting and design businesses and a new store (twotinytots.com.au) .
Any assistance in terms of advice on fundraising would be GREATLY appreciated.
Sorry, not trying to hijack the thread either just trying to move it back to what I think it was originally intended for and not a euthanasia argument..
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1319 posts
Smashcrab, thanks very much for that :) I hope you can get some assistance for your daughter. Have you spoken to anyone at AEIOU (Autism Early Intervention Outcomes Unit)? They're a client of ours who work with children across the full ASD spectrum and I can't recommend them highly enough. They're really wonderful people who work extremely hard to help autistic children develop the skills needed to function as close to normally as possible.
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
65 posts
Ya, we're on the waiting list there too :)
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Sc00bs
Brisbane, Queensland
9017 posts
err, its just a dog? why spend 10k on it?
Get another one?
i dont understand :/
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Raven
Melbourne, Victoria
7383 posts
My brother has his head set on getting an Alaskan Klee Kai. Even putting aside the emotional bond, you would expect to pay $4,000 just for the pup, let alone being on a waiting list for them.
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
66 posts
Right after I wrote my last message I got a phone call from smart pups :)
We're approved!
It's 25k overall to raise them, they want us to raise 13k of it and we need to have 25% of that (3.25k) within 12 weeks of us signing the contract.
So again .. Any tips on fundraising would be awesome about now :P
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12800 posts
You won't like this, but whatever, you asked for money making suggestions. You work in IT in a capital city and your household income is 44k?
Stop working on building businesses and at startups. Around here we call that chocolate, and you only play with chocolate when the bills are paid / you have the luxury to do so.
In your profession you should be able to pull 6 figures contracting in Brissy, assuming you don't suck. This is vanilla work. Yes its boring. But you need money for your daughter.
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Bad
Cainer
Brisbane, Queensland
907 posts
Gesthemene that's sad to hear. Hopefully the dog gets better quick.
I have pet insurance on my 2 dogs. We go through PetPlan and just for info's sake I think its around $35 per dog per month.
In March this year, one of them was at the park playing and then she started to limp and was bleeding from her paw. My wife took her home and it looks like a piece of glass cut under her foot and her middle toe was sticking up. After seeing 2 vets who were practically useless (both said to just wrap her up and she'll be fine) we got a reference from one to see a foot specialist at AES at Springwood.
AES were fucking awesome. The doctor immediately knew she has severed both of her tendons to her middle toe so she had full loss of control in it. She got put straight into surgery and he repaired it. As the tendon is like elastic it had snapped back up her leg so he had to go cutting up to find it and re-attach. She was then given back to us the next day, and we had to go to the vet every 4 days to redo the bandage and she was confined to her crate for 7 weeks straight.
She is now almost as good as new (toe sits a couple of mm higher than the others, but she can move it fully).
Awesome news was PetPlan covered the WHOLE thing, 2 vet trips, all surgery costs, all recovery, all items etc. Best money I ever spent cause it cost me a fucking fortune and I got it all back!
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thermite
Brisbane, Queensland
10250 posts
Err... Precisely why did you feel you had to take something I'd said completely out of context? Not even just out of context, but ignoring the second half of that sentence? Bad troll is bad :(
I'm gonna let this shit slide because your dog is all fucked up
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1320 posts
Mate, that's awesome :) I'm glad to see that you had a good experience with AES and I'm really please to hear that she's recovered full function :)
The thing with our pet insurance is that it was bundled with our home contents insurance. Apparently the cost of bundling pet insurance like this was more than offset by the savings to our contents policy, as having a pet is an extremely large deterrent to thieves. Pity they just fucked us over on both aspects of the cover :(
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greazy
Brisbane, Queensland
5549 posts
I find it strange that such a significant member of your family does not have the necessary insurance cover which meets their health requirements.
P.S Sell your car, I'll buy it.
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Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13706 posts
smashcrab, I'm 100% with Hogfather. You sound like your own worst enemy with your earning potential. I find it strange that such a significant member of your family does not have the necessary insurance cover which meets their health requirements.
If you're talking about the autistic child I doubt there is a lot you can do here. It's unlikely wouldn't have some kind of ridiculous autism cover (if it even exists) before the child had actually been diagnosed. Insurance companies wouldn't accept the risk. They would have to have an option that requires you to insure the child before birth - counting on 1000 people insuring with no problems and 1 person being unlucky. I don't know for a fact though - this type of insurance may very well be possible.
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
67 posts
Although it would be nice to just decide to get a "six figure" job somewhere, it's not quite that simple..
The reason I'm doing it this way is because I 100% NEED to be able to work from home with flexible hours to work around the therapy and help look after my kids. They're a massive handful, and I can't just leave 5 days a week. I also have zero formal qualifications despite 10+ years of hands on experience in all areas of IT.
Yes, more money would be amazing but its just not that likely - and I would be destroying years of work to just give up now..
Also there is no magic insurance for autism that makes this go away :P
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12801 posts
I was gonna reply, but fuck it. You've made your mind up pretty firmly.
I hope people give you money so both your business flourishes and your kid gets the help she needs.
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Ha
Brisbane, Queensland
304 posts
hey smashcrab you may just want to save your 25k donated from everyone / government while you do whatever and just buy your little girl a deviantart account for furry porn artwork and a something awful account ($10) so she can post in gbs.
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Obes
Brisbane, Queensland
9807 posts
Sorry, I love dogs (We have 2 dogs, 2 cats, 3 chickens, a parrot and fish). But it is only a dog.
Anymore then a grand or 2, and they go to sleep.
Partially a cost thing, and partially if they have had that much work done their quality of life is going to be shit house.
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Spook
Brisbane, Queensland
34324 posts
im not sure id drop 6k if spook jnr got mauled.
not sure if i like the ways hes turning out to be honest.
mite just go back to the drawing board and start again building the super child.
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Mephz
Brisbane, Queensland
1186 posts
There are three responses to this: Just no.
Other people can benefit from the mistake and being informed about pet insurance from this thread.
With that said I'd like to say that without being an asshole about the whole issue as I'm very sorry about your dog I can't recommend Pet Insurance enough at all though and your situation is a good reason as to a warning to others plus my own (Though I was lucky and had the insurance beforehand).
My dog is insured through medibank pet insurance. He's over 50kg (lean) and anaesthesia costs a fortune for his weight.
He's had over $10,000 worth in surgery and consultation, would have been closer to $20,000 if he had required the other side done as well but fortunately it was less severe and grew out of that subluxation.
My out of pocket expense for all of that was approximately $500 (excess).
It was an easy pay and get re-imbursed system and Medibank was very fast in reimbursing.
I found pet insurance significantly easier to deal with than any private health insurance for people (including medibank's human sector).
I have my dog insured on the middle level cover (silver paws) and not the top.
Sorry about your dog. Just wanted to throw a post out there outlining the ease of pet insurance and for anyone who doesn't have it thinking its as big a dick around as human private health it's not and it's cheap as chips ~$200/year. Definitely worth getting if you haven't already last edited by Mephz at 17:21:25 19/Sep/12
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12802 posts
Mephz
Brisbane, Queensland
1187 posts
Just yes. So close minded. I guess your way or the highway for everything?
Anyway. Whenever you get something going OP - may be able to help out a little bit for the poor dog.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12803 posts
So close minded. I guess your way or the highway for everything? Nope? You're the one throwing around 'just no' remarks dude.
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Mephz
Brisbane, Queensland
1188 posts
Actually I expanded immediately afterward. Plus there was already a comment on someone who didn't even know pet insurance existed.
Which is kind of what the second poster was eluding to but perhaps not in the most optimal worded way.
You don't always need to talk to people the way you did your first post in this thread.
D3 thread? I don't recall you enjoying it coming your way.
I'm just calling you out on it or making you aware of how it seems because I see it all the time in your posts.
I don't want to argue on it further you can do what you like with that observation
last edited by Mephz at 17:40:18 19/Sep/12
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skythra
Brisbane, Queensland
6109 posts
Also Gesthemene, I might have sounded callus, but those feelings about losing your pet? They're real and i am sorry if i sounded rude about what I said. I'm glad to hear she's doing well and that's the best outcome you could hope for so I'm happy for you. :)
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12804 posts
You don't always need to talk to people the way you did your first post in this thread. D3 thread? I don't recall you enjoying it coming your way. LOL are you keeping score or something there, Loki?
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Mephz
Brisbane, Queensland
1190 posts
Oh yawn.
More to the point to for the OP. I tried viewing the reddit (I'm also a reddit newbie) and I didn't see any donation thing. Then again I didn't see how to expand your main post or there wasn't much to it.
Sorry.
last edited by Mephz at 18:42:57 19/Sep/12
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
68 posts
After looking around a bit more I settled on GoFundMe - http://www.gofundme.com/katanasfriend
Easy setup, customisable and doesn't force you to set a deadline like most others. Just need to come up with a catchy name & domain and I'll build a site around it for more backstory and a place for donators to get progress updates etc :)
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1321 posts
Ok, the page is live, you can view it here: http://www.gofundme.com/18fzm4Dazhel has been awesome and donated before I even had the page set up and running. If anyone else feels like donating, it would mean an awful lot to us. Even if you don't or can't, if you could do me a favour and share it around on twitter/facebook/carrier pigeon etc, that would be awesome too.
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Ha
Brisbane, Queensland
308 posts
hi facebook. some guy on the internet put his family into debt for a dog. please give him money instead of other causes that are actually worthy.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1322 posts
greazy
Brisbane, Queensland
5553 posts
smashcrab, I'm 100% with Hogfather. You sound like your own worst enemy with your earning potential.If you're talking about the autistic child I doubt there is a lot you can do here. It's unlikely wouldn't have some kind of ridiculous autism cover (if it even exists) before the child had actually been diagnosed. Insurance companies wouldn't accept the risk. They would have to have an option that requires you to insure the child before birth - counting on 1000 people insuring with no problems and 1 person being unlucky.I don't know for a fact though - this type of insurance may very well be possible. What? No I was talking about the dog. I didn't even read smashcrab's post. I find it ridiculous that he and his partner earn less than a shit kicker at woolies, combined.
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fpot
Gold Coast, Queensland
21532 posts
I posted it on my facebook page.
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Captain Lateral
Brisbane, Queensland
4611 posts
They're a massive handful, and I can't just leave 5 days a week. I also have zero formal qualifications despite 10+ years of hands on experience in all areas of IT.
wait, why not? what does your wife do?
my wife, with no IT experience (no interest in the "IT" industry really) outside of doing "admin" work in an IT place was able to get work doing IT support level 1 for $40k.
flexible hours for $45k on the back of 10 years IT experience should be easy to come by. have you even tried?
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
69 posts
Thanks for all the misguided unwanted career advice. I need to work from home since my kids require full on care from both of us every day. My partner doesn't work for the same reason. Thanks to the qgl people that donated :)
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fpot
Gold Coast, Queensland
21536 posts
You should just wait till your daughter grows up and uses her autism to count cards at the casino. Phat stax to be made.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12851 posts
Thanks for all the misguided unwanted career advice. When you stick your hand up and beg for help from random strangers people are going to ask why you can't take care of your family yourself. If you don't like it, don't beg.
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eski
Perth, Western Australia
1160 posts
Captain Lateral
Brisbane, Queensland
4613 posts
my kids require full on care from both of us every day.
Except when you're running your own business and petitioning for charity though? right?
1 full time worker and a support person(evening shift while the wife takes a break) I can understand, but 2 full time workers for a child that would be less than 50kg, I don't think so.
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12855 posts
Except when you're running your own business and petitioning for charity though? right? Your forgot the bit where he's working 40+ hours at the startup for next to nothing: I work beyond full time for a small startup
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eski
Perth, Western Australia
1161 posts
Im speechless, what a bunch of miserable assholes.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1323 posts
Well, so far I've had one guy from the US donate $100 through gofundme. Any ideas on how else I could get the word out about it?
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Hogfather
Cairns, Queensland
12856 posts
Im speechless, what a bunch of miserable assholes. Why, because we took the time to offer advice rather than cash, and were told off for it? Go figure.
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TicMan
Melbourne, Victoria
8251 posts
Im speechless, what a bunch of miserable assholes.
Hi, you must be new to QGL! I went to donate some money for the save the doggy fund, but then saw people asking money for infant burial services on that web site and decided that a dog didn't need my money any more.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1324 posts
Why, because we took the time to offer advice rather than cash, and were told off for it?
Go figure. Well, I'm asking for both advice and cash, so either is applicable and appreciated :) However, advice should actually be constructive. 20/20 hindsight *isn't* helpful and just makes people feel like shit. Not casting aspersions or calling anyone out, just stating a general rule of thumb. I went to donate some money for the save the doggy fund, but then saw people asking money for infant burial services on that web site and decided that a dog didn't need my money any more. Ticman, I can understand that. I'm definitely not saying that my cause is the most warranted or the saddest story out there etc. At least I've still got my dog. If we have to live on noodles and baked beans for a few months to pay people back for helping us when we needed it, so be it. All I'm asking for is that if you feel strongly enough towards a random guy from the web that you've never met to help him out of a bit of trouble, please feel free. Whether that help is financial, the giving of advice or even just spreading the word is fine. If you feel that donating to a fund to bury a child is a more worthwhile cause, by all means, donate to them too/instead. I guarantee that if I had spare cash right now, I'd be donating to that.
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fpot
Gold Coast, Queensland
21537 posts
Rename your thing from 'help sick dog' to 'Obsidian Kickstarter' and watch the cash roll in.
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1325 posts
Rename your thing from 'help sick dog' to 'Obsidian Kickstarter' and watch the cash roll in. Fuck you, I just spilled coffee on my shirt :(
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Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13721 posts
Im speechless, what a bunch of miserable assholes. plz explain Just because the advice you receive isn't the advice you'd like to hear doesn't mean it's not good advice.
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Herron
Brisbane, Queensland
137 posts
Well, so far I've had one guy from the US donate $100 through gofundme. Any ideas on how else I could get the word out about it?
Your story isn't tear-jerking enough to get a lot of random people donating for it or even spreading the story around. You would have had a better chance if your dog's life depended on the money - but it doesn't. Your dog is alive and the only problem is you got yourself into debt to pay for it, and many people will think the same. (I'm only trying to point out why your offer won't spread or attract attention).
You could try to make an emotional you-tube video and get it infront of the right type of facebook groups. Find a link to a twitter star with heaps of followers - someone from PETA.
I honestly think your best bet to raise some cash fast is to have a garage sale or something and try and get some donations on the day. Get creative and give them a discount if they tweet or link your donation page.
Or maybe sell your car and trade down.
last edited by Herron at 16:30:51 24/Sep/12
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Gesthemene
Brisbane, Queensland
1326 posts
Herron, you make some very good points. As it stands, the people who have shouldered the vast majority of the load at this point are our parents who have really stepped up above and beyond the call. I'm not trying to get anything out of this for myself, as I have already got that which I care about most, being our dog back home, safe and on the road to recovery.
Do you think I'd be better off explaining that the fund is more about paying back those people who have done so much to help us in as short a timeframe as possible? As I said in my earlier post, if I have to live on noodles and baked beans for a few months or so to do it, I will, but if possible, I'd prefer to not leave them hanging for so long.
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
70 posts
Yes, I work beyond full time hours among a few different projects but the beauty of working from home (with my "office" in the living room) means I can & do drop what I'm doing to assist with whatevers happening constantly.
I also have TWO kids, not just my daughter I also have a 16 month old boy who needs attention as well. Katana's weight is also irrelevant to this, its not just about physically restraining her - I'd like her to not be distressed all the time as well and this regularly takes both of us to calm her down and get into her world to figure out what's gotten her upset and fix it. Some people here are just talking out their ass, and I doubt you've had any full on experience with an autistic child to begin to understand the stress and dramas involved in the most basic everyday activities.
I'm done trying to justify myself to the trolls.
OP , I would suggest posting to the /r/assistance subreddit as well :)
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Ha
Brisbane, Queensland
309 posts
you could try posting pictures of your cupboard containing nothing but baked beans and ramen noodles, your garage empty, and a milk crate infront of a 7.6cm hand held black and white television. any stranger that donates anything to your first world ass needs to re-examine their priorities.
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csirac
Brisbane, Queensland
2735 posts
Has it been mentioned you might be able to get them on their home insurance (if they have it). back when i worked for an insurance company i saw the odd claim by the 3rd party for our insured's dog mauling theirs.
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PRiME
Brisbane, Queensland
191 posts
Most pound/animal medic places are basically corrupt. Does it take 1000 a day to take care of a dog? No its just they caught you out and sucking is going to begin. I would ask for a detailed report of every dollar spent so you can find out about the cost and how much inflated it is. Most vets will NOT give you such a thing as they are SCAMERS. Unfortunate but true
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Captain Lateral
Brisbane, Queensland
4615 posts
Do you think I'd be better off explaining that the fund is more about paying back those people who have done so much to help us in as short a timeframe as possible? As I said in my earlier post, if I have to live on noodles and baked beans for a few months or so to do it, I will, but if possible, I'd prefer to not leave them hanging for so long.
wait, you want other people to donate money so you don't have to deal with the inconvenience of paying your parents back?
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Boxhead
Brisbane, Queensland
12379 posts
Most vets will NOT give you such a thing as they are SCAMERS. Unfortunate but true Vets can't buy non-medical grade supplies (eg needles, cannulas, I.V Fluid, drugs).. Cos they don't exist. So there would be a cost involved, whether or not it amounts to 1000 a day I'm not going to comment.. But the actual used disposable items they use on pets will be bought by them at the same price as a doctors surgery (give or take a few cents depending on usage etc..)
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Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13722 posts
Most pound/animal medic places are basically corrupt. Does it take 1000 a day to take care of a dog? No its just they caught you out and sucking is going to begin. I would ask for a detailed report of every dollar spent so you can find out about the cost and how much inflated it is. Most vets will NOT give you such a thing as they are SCAMERS. Unfortunate but true Because vets shouldn't be rewarded for the expensive and demanding higher study that they have invested in? wait, you want other people to donate money so you don't have to deal with the inconvenience of paying your parents back? Such an unbelievably poor interpretation of the thread so far. Gesthemene - do you have any assets? In your situation I would, for example, sell my $20k car and buy a $5k car, things like that to raise a quick buck. Even refinance my house would be a valid option for a quick $10k.
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Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13723 posts
I'd like her to not be distressed all the time as well and this regularly takes both of us to calm her down and get into her world to figure out what's gotten her upset and fix it. Ok, but with a $60k pa team to help her - how much time would she be spending in that? Is that like a daily school? Because then you could work F/T in a higher paying job. Also, you have 4570 Facebook friends. Firstly, WTF!? Secondly, ask each one for $3. Anyone that doesn't pay unfriend them.
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
71 posts
The 60kpa team is our current estimate to give her the minimum recommended 20H a week of Speech, Occupational/Behavioural therapy and ABA (the most expensive part). So far we only have her in Speech and OT, and we're still interviewing juniors to organise our ABA team before doing a big training weekend. Just more money I don't have, but I'll make it happen because thats just what she needs.
The ridiculous amount of facebook contacts is cos I used to run a few news sites .. I have ~2k friend requests sitting in a que that I can't answer due to fb friend limits. Got some interesting & famous connections from all over the world, but it's not doing me much good right now :o/
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smashcrab
Brisbane, Queensland
72 posts
Also, we still need to be heavily involved in all of her therapies. This isn't day-care, it's in-home training for both her and ourselves in techniques to help improve our communication in day to day life.
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funky
Brisbane, Queensland
1729 posts
pinky, vet graduates are pretty poorly paid too. iirc when my ex graduated in 08, the average was 47k. not much for how much time and study involved. many of her year had done degrees beforehand, or at least some study in order to 'upgrade' into vet.
vets have high costs, and no government subsidies (like doctors/hospitals) not for drugs, not for consultations, not for equipment (xray machines etc aren't cheap..), not to mention regular business costs, rent, fixtures, wages, etc etc.
sure, might be dodgy people out there, but there are dodgy people in every profession out there. vet is no better nor worse
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Superform
Netherlands
7533 posts
Pinky
Melbourne, Victoria
13724 posts
The doc said, "Jetzt kommt das was ich diesem Job so hasse." -> "Now that's why I've come to hate this job so."
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skythra
Brisbane, Queensland
6119 posts
The doc said, "Jetzt kommt das was ich diesem Job so hasse." -> "Now that's why I've come to hate this job so." Oh i always thought he said "Now comes the bit which makes my job so hard". haha i don't know why, but it suited the joke of throwing it into the bin :P
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Herron
Brisbane, Queensland
139 posts
Do you think I'd be better off explaining that the fund is more about paying back those people who have done so much to help us in as short a timeframe as possible?
I think you'll get the same sort of reactions as what many are giving you here. I don't think you're going to get a big enough response asking for donations.
You'll have a better chance fundraising using a method where the person giving you money gets something back in return. Use the dog as a way to promote it.
People will respond differently when they see you are working towards paying your parents back rather than asking them to pay your parents back. If you were a kid I'd tell you to go knock on doors and ask if your neighbours have some odd jobs for you to do as you are trying to get some money for your sick dog. I think the neighbours will be quite generous in that situation because the kid is trying hard to save his dog and is willing to work for it.
Maybe you can organise a raffle or something around your area, cake store, garage sale. You used to be able to run raffles through facebook but things may have changed. I don't know what your skills are but maybe there is something you can offer their at a discounted rate after-hours.
If you own a nice car then downgrading to a shitbox would be the fastest result if possible. Then work on saving back up for the car.
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fpot
Gold Coast, Queensland
21539 posts
Maybe sell some of your scotch collection. Sell the scotch that has been bruised first.
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Spook
Brisbane, Queensland
34348 posts
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